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  • #75086
    when the "help" gets sick

    OK so I have had the tummy bug from hell for 10 days now probably C-Diff or summit.

    I think I m getting over it but the helps gone done with it and need helps.

    I have had to struggle about on my own, cooking yesterdays diner was a nightmare. we have no backup as carer dosnt want out side help and I would need to pay towards it. had zero help from friends and family.

    So we are both sick with no back up.

    """""""What doesn't kill you makes you stronger""""""

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    #91814
    Re: when the “help” gets sick

    That’s shocking that your friends or family are not helping. Don’t they know that inter current illness makes you more weak therefore putting you at higher risk. Why doesn’t your carer want outside help? It’s your care so you have a right to have your needs met not was suits the carer surely.

    Hope you feel better soon

    Gill

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    #91815
    Re: when the “help” gets sick

    @miracle77 wrote:

    Why doesn’t your carer want outside help?

    Gill

    carer does a super job. cant really afford to upset or rock the boat as she does everything(me/cat and house). I wouldnt get the level of care she provides from the state. but I am hopping this will be a lesson that I need a back up plan, its just shows that we cant really on help from family. I am going to have to make someone come and clean the cats tray cant have her deciding the facilities aint clean enough and picking a spot.

    Things normally run like clock work. and I can normally make do on a short term ie first person home basis but the added illness had left me weak. and with carer in bed its left me rather board and lonely. and cat wont cooperate with eating her dinner off the kitchen table. she will eat my dinner at the table but insists on hers on the mat. any ideas on how to get saucer of catfood on the cat mat without getting it all over the floor.

    With the time to sit and have a good think it has highlighted stuff that needs changed around the house, rugs that need moved, a cabinet in the toilet to make room for walker, I really need to do something about my bed- need one I can get myself out off. Kitchen needs a complete refit(not gonna happen)need to have a complete move round of bedroom furniture for better access.

    It has also highlighted how messy I am. :scratch:

    Cat

    Thank god for mail order food shopping.

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    #91816
    Re: when the “help” gets sick

    Sorry you have these problems.

    Dodgy food problems can be nasty and hang around for ages.

    There is a greater good though if the whole episode will lead to a rethink and a better
    arrangement of things in your living environment. O.T.’s hate rugs and see them as slippy
    slidy, trippy things.

    Right on the point actually, I have O.T. visit at ten tomorrow. Some other medico who visited last month
    blew the whistle on me after finding a few out of date things in the kitchen. I have been hiding
    rugs and stuff all afternoon.

    Just as with you I have re-arranged bathroom and expect rave reviews for my new “basin seat”.

    The family thing is difficult I know and mine are identical, but at least you know exactly where you
    are and get a pride from every single step forward. Wish I could help on the cat, but that is just how
    wonderful they are they have a mind and personality all of there own. I am sure she will be pleased to lick the floor clean (when it suits her).

    "Even if you are not paranoid, it does not mean they are not out to get you!".

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    #91817
    Re: when the “help” gets sick

    @catatude wrote:

    …any ideas on how to get saucer of catfood on the cat mat without getting it all over the floor…

    I tend to put the cat’s bowl on the floor first, then lower her food into it. It works reasonably well.

    Though mine too tends to prefer to eat my food off my plate. Fish or chicken is her favourite. She prowls around the table while I’m eating, just in case…

    Good luck, catatude. Hope things sort themselves out soon.

    petered
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    #91818
    Re: when the “help” gets sick

    hey cat. this may sound like a dumb idea but I use Wiltshire farm foods. their a full meal that you whack in the microwave.
    would you be better off ordering some meals to put you on until the carer comes back

    stefan

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    #91819
    Re: when the “help” gets sick

    resident carer is reallly sick. called out doc. doc thinks gastro bug like nora or cdiff. bloods taken

    think main issue is dehydration.

    family have stepped up. brother (volunteered) to come do house work. uncle is off work this week and has taking up cat care and got me a lovely salad roll for lunch and drinkys etc. brothers doing my diner. sister has offered to stay over if mumsy gets quarantined. hope it doesn’t come to that.

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    #91820
    Re: when the “help” gets sick

    @littlestef wrote:

    hey cat. this may sound like a dumb idea but I use Wiltshire farm foods. their a full meal that you whack in the microwave.
    would you be better off ordering some meals to put you on until the carer comes back

    seen them at naidex. any good? feed up with chineese. and costly. i made fish the other day but took ages, real messy and was really tired after. its hard cooking with one hand using walker.

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    #91821
    Re: when the “help” gets sick

    I can honestly say the meals taste lovely. only problem ive found is there a little small for me but im quite a big eater. you just need to order a minimum of 19.00 worth. but that’s about 6 meals. give them a try and see what you think

    stefan

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    #91822
    Re: when the “help” gets sick

    My Dad has these … they were good and tasty, but like Stef I found the portions a little small especially as I am not a pudding eater.

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    #91823
    Re: when the “help” gets sick

    I had their trial pack……

    Six meal with deserts for £ 20.

    Very nice indeed.

    Will be using these in Cold weather.

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    #91824
    Re: when the “help” gets sick

    Glad family have stepped up Cat, about time too!

    I’ve tried Wiltshire foods and they are ok but nothing special I think and yes portion sizes are small. I prefer to cook in bulk & freeze when I’m well or get family to do it so I can just microwave it when I’m struggling.

    Cheers
    GIll

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    #91825
    Re: when the “help” gets sick

    @catatude wrote:

    resident carer is reallly sick. called out doc. doc thinks gastro bug like nora or cdiff. bloods taken

    think main issue is dehydration.

    family have stepped up. brother (volunteered) to come do house work. uncle is off work this week and has taking up cat care and got me a lovely salad roll for lunch and drinkys etc. brothers doing my diner. sister has offered to stay over if mumsy gets quarantined. hope it doesn’t come to that.

    Glad it seems to be coming together. I alway keep a couple of pot noodles and cup a soup in the cupboard as sort of emergency provisions.

    How’s Mum now? Has the gastro situ settled and she is now recovering from recovering from the bug?

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    #91826
    Re: when the “help” gets sick

    @amgmod wrote:

    @catatude wrote:

    resident carer is reallly sick. called out doc. doc thinks gastro bug like nora or cdiff. bloods taken

    think main issue is dehydration.

    family have stepped up. brother (volunteered) to come do house work. uncle is off work this week and has taking up cat care and got me a lovely salad roll for lunch and drinkys etc. brothers doing my diner. sister has offered to stay over if mumsy gets quarantined. hope it doesn’t come to that.

    Glad it seems to be coming together. I alway keep a couple of pot noodles and cup a soup in the cupboard as sort of emergency provisions.

    How’s Mum now? Has the gastro situ settled and she is now recovering from recovering from the bug?

    mums was admitted as emergency on Friday by GP. very dehydrated and confused. still having diarrhea/sikness and unable to eat. has drip IV and antibi. dont know what bug shes being treated for, they wont give answers and mum very tired and confussed. shes to take paracetimal for temp. but its the really cheap big kind and she either cant get them down or they hit her stomach and come back up.. I have said to the nursing staff several times but they are ignoring me. I am waiting on a ring back from GP and will ask her to re highlight that she needs the bullet shaped paracetimal with coating to protect stomach. she has a urine cath in but its restricting her mobility shes staying in bed as its uncomfortable.

    family’s been great particularly sis. shes real tired, we couldn’t work like this long term. her and kids are all squashed up in mums bed. she has real late nights and early mornings. shes needs to get me washed dressed fed before they all leave. and she has been having to shower mum and change her hosp bed. Someones booked everyday to help me into visiting and have lunch.

    i have to admit, Im lost without her.

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    #91827
    Re: when the “help” gets sick

    Oh gosh, poor Mum! I hope she turns a corner soon.

    Bravo sister, kudos to you

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    #91813
    Re: when the “help” gets sick

    @littlestef wrote:

    hey cat. this may sound like a dumb idea but I use Wiltshire farm foods. their a full meal that you whack in the microwave. k

    Wiltshire Farm Foods are very good.

    The other company that offers a similar service with meals delivered to your door
    is Oak House Foods :-

    http://www.oakhousefoods.co.uk/

    Tried them a couple of times last winter.

    Slightly more expensive but better quality and higher calorific value.

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    #91828
    Re: when the “help” gets sick

    aww

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