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  • #74459
    My last, and saddest, update..

    Hey all..

    Well this has been a harrowing, stressful, emotional and exhausting week for me, but I just wanted to let you all know how much I appreciate your support, your words of comfort and your words of encouragement.

    Unfortunately I have to let you all know that my fiance passed away 03.07.12, at 9:50am. I am only grateful that I was by his side, as were his parents, when he passed away. He passed away peacefully, and with as much dignity as we could afford him. At 36 he was far too young, but I am a better person for having known him, and I only hope I made his life as beautiful and as happy as I could have. We shared many special times, went many special places, and he was everything to me.

    I am lost.. I am hollow.. I am numb.. but I hope you all know how much you have all helped me through this period.. but I hope I have not overburdened you..

    Thanks to you all..

    Much love, and many wishes,

    AngelicPrincess (Alison) xxx

    AngelicPrincess
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    #85939
    Re: My last, and saddest, update..

    Our heartfelt condolences Alison.

    Words are just not enough, but you have done this with all the courage and
    dignity anyone could muster.

    Thanks to you.

    "Even if you are not paranoid, it does not mean they are not out to get you!".

    taungfox
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    #85940
    Re: My last, and saddest, update..

    I’m so sorry for your loss my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family xxxxxx

    Vicki
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    #85941
    Re: My last, and saddest, update..

    Oh Alison :-( I am so sorry to hear your news today – my heart felt sorrow for you and your family and my prayers for all you. We are all here for you if you feel you want to talk about anything. xxx gentle hugs x

    Louise

    criptic
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    #85942
    Re: My last, and saddest, update..

    Gutted. Very, very sorry for your loss. Very sorry.

    There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self

    I, Disabled Bloke
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    #85943
    Re: My last, and saddest, update..

    That is a cruel blow Alison, i am most sorry to hear of your fiance’s passing. I earnestly hope both family’s love can bring you a little comfort.

    Ranald

    ranald
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    #85944
    Re: My last, and saddest, update..

    I am so very sorry to read your post. You have certainly not burdened us, I am glad we could support you by listening and providing you a place to talk. Sending you love and strength for the days to come x x x

    A learning experience is one of those things that say, “You know that thing you just did? Don’t do that.” - Douglas Adams

    sar78 sar78
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    #85945
    Re: My last, and saddest, update..

    Oh Princess, I am awash with tears for you. I send to you the words of Canon Henry Scott.

    Death is nothing at all
    I have only slipped away into the next room
    I am I and you are you
    Whatever we were to each other
    That we are still
    Call me by my old familiar name
    Speak to me in the easy way you always used
    Put no difference into your tone
    Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow
    Laugh as we always laughed
    At the little jokes we always enjoyed together
    Play, smile, think of me, pray for me
    Let my name be ever the household word that it always was
    Let it be spoken without effort
    Without the ghost of a shadow in it
    Life means all that it ever meant
    It is the same as it ever was
    There is absolute unbroken continuity
    What is death but a negligible accident?
    Why should I be out of mind
    Because I am out of sight?
    I am waiting for you for an interval
    Somewhere very near
    Just around the corner
    All is well.
    Nothing is past; nothing is lost
    One brief moment and all will be as it was before
    How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!

    I'm always the animal, my body's the cage

    I blog about nothingness www.amgroves.com

    AM
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    #85946
    Re: My last, and saddest, update..

    SO very sad for your loss Alison.I hate this horrible disease.

    tammas
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    #85947
    Re: My last, and saddest, update..

    Been thinking about you guys throughout the day and very sad to see this now. I hope you can be as strong at this time as you have shown us you have been in the past.

    My thoughts are with you & the family x

    Sagar
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    #85948
    Re: My last, and saddest, update..

    Deeply sorry for your loss, but thanks so much for sharing your story with us. You are a truly inspirational person.

    petered
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    #85949
    Re: My last, and saddest, update..

    I’m so sorry :(

    You are in my thoughts x x x

    lyssie
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    #85950
    Re: My last, and saddest, update..

    So so sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

    Val
    x

    Valerie
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    #85951
    Re: My last, and saddest, update..

    Dearest Alison

    I am so very sorry for your loss, we all had hoped with you for a better outcome.

    I hope that your memories will act as a source of support and strength to you in the difficult time ahead.

    Very best wishes
    Gill

    miracle77
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    #85952
    Re: My last, and saddest, update..

    Hello to all of you wonderful people..

    I wanted to thank you all again so much for all your support and comforting words over the last 3 weeks..

    We held Carlos’ funeral on Wednesday, and it was a beautiful sunny day (amazing granted Tuesday and Thursday were pouring rain..), and all our work really paid off. As far as funerals go, it was a beautiful day, beautiful flowers (irises, lilies, purple orchids, white roses and blue delphiniums), on a beautiful white coffin (as beautiful as coffins can be).. and the service was beautiful too.

    At the end of the burial we released 6 white doves, one for each of the family, one for him and one for me. As his dad said to me, it was like the happy icing on a very sad cake.

    We had 4 eulogies, his 2 brothers, his dad and I.. and without even trying they were all so different, but tied in so well together.

    Basically it was a day that remembered him well and he would have been happy to have attended.

    Everyone’s support here has been amazing.. thank you all so much. It has been so nice to share our experiences with people who understand, and to hear of your experiences as well.. I hope I can be of more assistance to everyone here despite my loss.. thank you all.

    AngelicPrincess
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    #85953
    Re: My last, and saddest, update..

    Lovely to hear that the funeral all came together well and the day went as good as these can ever be – thinking about you lots x do stay in touch x stay strong, hugs Louise.

    criptic
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    #85954
    Re: My last, and saddest, update..

    Hi Alison, glad to know that you had a nice goodbye. You will both always hold a place in my heart. For a man I never met Carlos made a big impact on my life.

    Thank you both.

    Dovito28 Dovito28
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    #85955
    Re: My last, and saddest, update..

    @angelicprincess wrote:

    Everyone’s support here has been amazing.. thank you all so much. It has been so nice to share our experiences with people who understand, and to hear of your experiences as well.. I hope I can be of more assistance to everyone here despite my loss.. thank you all.

    I am so pleased we were all able to help in our small and distant ways. It sounds like his send off was a perect day, a proper mix of tears and joy, he will be undoubtedly remembered for his courage and spirit. Thank you for wanting to help others, you have a beautiful spirit and kind heart.

    I'm always the animal, my body's the cage

    I blog about nothingness www.amgroves.com

    AM
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    #85956
    Re: My last, and saddest, update..

    Carlos and Alison !

    "Even if you are not paranoid, it does not mean they are not out to get you!".

    taungfox
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